Since so much of what goes into a wedding is revolved around speeches and toasts etc. it helps to know how you plan to go about it. If you are a maid of honor or best man, you could wind up giving a dozen different speeches and toasts. Rehearsal dinners, showers, bachelor parties and of course receptions will have you giving a speech or toast at all of them. That is why you need to be prepared.

There are some more things that you have to consider when you are writing your speech as well. Since all of your speeches are going to be different, you need to know exactly what you are going to say in a general sense so that you can prepare your speech. Here is a short list of the most important questions that you must consider before writing your speech.

• What kind of speech do I plan to make? (humorous, poetic, sentimental)
• How long will my speech be?
• What is my role in this wedding ie. Father of the bride, best man, maid of honor, bridesmaid etc.
• What type of impression am I hoping to give?
• Is this a first wedding or second?
• How well do I know the couple?
• How long have I known the couple?
• How do I want the couple to remember my speech?

Finding the answers to the following questions about the Bride and Groom will also help you find your inspiration, and find out what you really want to include in your speech. Don't hold back in this area, write down everything that comes to mind...you will have plenty of time to edit the content later. Here are some more questions that you should ask.

- How long have you known the Groom? And how or where did you meet?
- How did the Bride and Groom meet? Were you involved in a relationship before?
- How did the Groom ask bride to marry him? And what was her immediate reaction?
- How long has the Bride and Groom been a couple?
- Do they have children already?
- What are the Bride and Groom's mutual interests?
- What 5 words come to mind when you think of the Groom and the bride as well?
- What is the funniest thing that happened to the Groom while Bride was around or missing in action? And vice-versa?
- What is the funniest thing that happened to the Groom (or Bride) while you were around?
- What would you like the future to hold for the Bride and Groom?

The questions above are more important that you might think. When you answer them, you can certainly decrease your options which will make your writing efforts a great deal easier. Naturally the more questions you ask the better your speech will be.